In Praise of Underestimating Ourselves
Therapists often talk about therapy as a one-way street. The reality is more complex. We are relational creatures. I am inspired and learn from the folks I sit with every day.
We sit together each week and talk about your practice. How you try to make space for the thing you love. How you know that getting better means letting there be moments of less good. How five minutes of consistent practice is better than punishing yourself for not practicing. And as you begin to practice, to make space in your week, I see lightness gather around you. I hear more kindness in your voice. More patience with yourself. It is not how you want it be, but it is changing. It is not the perfect practice you long for, but it is living and growing as you make space for it each day.
I breathe in your transformation.
It helps me remember the things I love. It reminds me to make my own space. Before my daughter was born, I began practicing Ashtanga yoga. The discipline of this practice was something I never imagined for my life. I woke up at 5:30 every morning. I walked or biked to the studio. I went in the rain and the snow. I went when I had a cold. I made no excuses.
After my daughter was born, I tried to keep my practice as it was. Once I was well enough to practice I began to wake up early, drag myself to the studio. I was still breastfeeding several times a night, and my daughter's sleep was not consistent. I was exhausted. My practice was slow. I was not in my body. And when I could not practice the way I wanted to I stopped doing yoga at all. My free time seemed to evaporate. When I had "only" fifteen minutes I thought I could do nothing.
Last week someone said to me:
"What if being with the unknown is the most important work you can do?
What practices support that? How do you leave your mind and return to your body?"
And so, inspired by you, I have returned to my yoga practice. I do it first. Before I go online, or turn on the television. I do it in a cluttered and tiny storage room that might one day be an office. I push aside boxes of unused art supplies to make a little space to put my socks and slippers while I practice. My mind wants to get organized. Clear more space. Get rid of more things. "No." I tell myself. I feel the floor beneath my palms.
This is enough. This is all there is.